Sex, Sandpaper, and Society.
Sex. Almost everyone seems to enjoy it, or at least they seek it so they can enjoy it. But why is this? Why is it so important?
Now, I will be honest and say I’m still a virgin, so to all you nay-sayers out there… I’m fully aware I MIGHT say different if I experienced it. Then again, that’s a huge ‘might’. But I’m just throwing that out there before I get comments saying I should try it before bashing it. I’m fine as I am, thank you.
Back to the main subject… I see too many people questing for the act of sex. That seems to be all it is to them. Personally, I prefer the term ‘making love’. Not really a necessary sentence, but I’m putting it up anyways…
The people who seem sex-oriented… I’ve noticed that they don’t know/realize all too much. I’m not calling them stupid, mind you… But they seem to not see as much, not to study life and the world as much. Their quest for sex has blinded them to quite a few things the world has to offer. They’ve seemed to lose sight of the simple pleasures in life. They don’t recognize the beauty of a chilly moonlit night, the brilliance of ants taking your food, the fact a computer really can be used for more than porn or Internet dating.
So why is society so much more sex-oriented than it used to be? I cannot say. I don’t know. Maybe I was just raised too old-fashioned or sheltered and never noticed it as I grew up. I’m not terribly concerned, just… Confused and a little saddened. Sex is blocking life from these people, it seems… And that’s not exactly a good thing.
Oh, and I love the ones who try to ‘get into my pants’. They act like they have the right to, or that I should be more open about it. As if sex with someone is a RIGHT, not a privilege. They don’t have to let you if they don’t want to. It’s called rape for a reason, people… Anyways, it’s those people who anger me the most. They seem so blind to the possibility someone can say ‘no’, or that someone really hasn’t had sex by now. They get this ridiculous look on their face as if they’re truly, truly surprised.
And maybe they are. But that doesn’t seem to stop them for long. The jokes soon come again, the ‘subtle’ advances… I just wish these people didn’t know others who had been so willing to go at it with them. Now they seem to expect it from anyone, and this just spreads the idea. Sexy Dominoes, eh?
I want these people to learn that maybe you do have to prove yourself to be a capable person, to be successful and ‘right’. That it isn’t going to be easy all the time. That to ‘get into my pants’, you need to show who you are as a person… If you want in, prove yourself to me ((Not necessarily me personally, but you should get my point)). Maybe if more start realizing this… Sex won’t be so annoying. Or at least putting up with the people who want it won’t be.
Also, for those who are wondering about the ‘sandpaper’ bit… They’re sanding the wall next to me, and it’s making me lose my mojo/expressiveness/literacy/motivation to write this. :D
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The sandpaper bit was worrying until I reached the end. "If you think sex is going to be like sandpaper grinding on wood then you're badly mistaken…" was going around in my head.
Why is society so sex-oriented now? I think it has a lot to do with the fact that people are just more open about it. People have been having sex for ages and ages, but it's only recently that we talk about it and to admit it as being healthy. It's healthy to masturbate, it's a sign that a relationship is healthy if sex occurs regularly. And so on. (I'm saying for the most part, I know there are still the conservative ones, and the religious ones, etc)
As for me? I'm all for the little things in relationships; the moonlit walks, the simple late-night conversations, watching tv together; but I still think sex is sex. It's carnal pleasure. Sure, sex makes a relationship stronger, makes two people feel more connected( because of the pure intimacy of the act) but ultimately, it's an exchange of fluids and stimulus to muscles.
'maybe you do have to prove yourself to be a capable person, to be successful and ‘right’. That it isn’t going to be easy all the time. That to ‘get into my pants’, you need to show who you are as a person… If you want in, prove yourself to me ((Not necessarily me personally, but you should get my point)). '
You have the option of hanging out with extremely religious people who reserve sex for marriage. That should cut down the number of people who try to get sex from you without trying to prove themselves.
Modern society is extremely materialistic. Furthermore, most countries are very well-fed, and well-fed people think about sex, whereas hungry people think about food but think much less about sex.
For most of history, people were more or less hungry. They did not know if there would be a good harvest. Rays in the granary could cause a whole town to starve. People prayed more because they weren't sure they would survive.
Now people can't imagine what life would be like without supermarkets. They assume that sex is plentiful, just like food is plentiful.
Whoops, I meant to add a link to a failblog post that perfectly summarizes how cheap sex has become: http://failblog.files.wordpress.com/2010/07/26154…
A thirteen-year-old girl reports that she exchanged sex for a hair weave.
This is what happens when well-fed people live by materialistic values.
I believe you're right.
My boyfriend and I, surprisingly enough, don't bother ourselves about sex. You have the right to say yes or no, so I say ignore the people advancing on you and tell them to back off. Love is shown in the language that the couple alone understands, be it a lovely walk at midnight under a full moon or a game played together, or just sharing a piece of food. That's love. Sex is just one of the many ways to express love. It's not superficial…or shouldn't be anyway.
Society HAS gotten a bit more sex driven, whether by media, freedom of expression, or whatever reason people care to spin. It's not really going to stop; this is one of the irreversable things. -sighs-
I think Picasso, Dali, E.E. Cummings, Frida Kahlo, Hemingway, Georgia O'Keeffe, Patti Smith, Tchaikovsky, Anais Nin, Fredrico Fellini, Orson Wells, Yasunari Kawabata, Junichiro Tanizaki, Charles Bukowski, Lord Byron, and quite a few of the other great poets would have to disagree.
These artists spent their lives in praise of life's subtle pleasures, yet each one would be considered abnormally/notoriously sexually active and/or interested in the erotic.
You obviously don't understand life from their perspective.
Experience isn't a linear scale. Being a dumbass teaches you quite a lot. They don't not see as much. They see different things. Your choice of words makes it pretty clear you think lesser of that.
That's all well and good but realize that you're inferior in all kinds of ways to those people you're talking about. Opposite applies as well.